Tuesday, August 19, 2008

Yeah, so I kinda suck at this whole blog thing sometimes

Sorry I haven't posted in a long time. I'm sure all three of you have moved on by now. ;)

It's not that I don't have anything to say; quite to the contrary. It's just that lately I'm having trouble figuring out which of my somethings I should be saying and even more trouble trying to find time to articulate what I want to say.

So for now, let's just catch up...

First, a few updates:

1) Annie is much better. Turns out she had a mineral deficiency that was causing her to have seizures; the bleeding they found in her brain last time was from hitting the ground so hard. She's busy planning her daughter's wedding.

2) I am worried we might still lose control of the school. There's been some mis-management that I just don't think we can overcome without a merger partner. It's bumming me out, but we're gonna keep on keepin' on.

3) The event that the CEO tried to chew my hind end about went off beautifully. Like, people cried because it was so beautiful. So there! Nyah-nyahnny-boo-boo Dr. #2 Pencil.

Good stuff:

I got a chance, weekend before last, to attend one of the happiest weddings I've seen in a long time. Congratulations to AliThinks and AllanThinks! I also got to see some wonderful friends that I don't see anywhere near often enough. I wish I could have had a week there, instead of the two quick days I spent down there. I also got to see my best friend, Suzanne, who was my date for this event and put up with attending someone else's family reunion for the weekend. Thanks, Suz. I love you!

On Monday, I start this semester teaching a class that's been on my list of "classes I must teach some day" for a long time. Can. Not. Wait.

I'm off work this week. It's Fair Week here. I love Fair Week. I'll post some pictures later this week. Nothing else too big on the agenda. We put a new garage door on today, which was long overdue. While it wasn't any fun, it was satisfying.

Not so good stuff:

My girlfriend, Eva, got in a pretty serious car accident yesterday. Rolled her car over. Thank goodness, she wasn't hurt beyond being pretty banged up. And thank goodness the kids weren't in the car. But man, what a hassle for her and what a scare for her and for all of us!

I mention this, in part, because on Saturday, I was at Eva's house making draft projects to hand out as Christmas presents. Eva asked me about whether or not she should divorce her husband. They have two young kids. It's been a very rough couple years over there. (Case in point: he sees her accident yesterday as an enormous inconvenience to his plans for this week...)

"Let me tell you something," I told her. "When you divorce a man while you have young kids, he doesn't leave your life. You don't get to walk away clean. You don't get rid of his debts. He's still there. His baggage is still around. The only difference is that he doesn't love you anymore. It's not worth it, if you think you can work to make it not horrible until they're older."

I stopped, because I realized then that I could offer this advice so easily because there were times in my own marriage when I'd done this math. Thankfully, I'm not in that place now. But it saddened me. I always pictured marriage as a long-term partnership, and I'd just characterized it as something to be endured until she could get out.

Eh, back to another good thing. Won't dwell on the badness...

I'm on the couch right now, nestled between a snoring almost-eight-year-old and a snoring dog. It's very peaceful here and I'm very thankful for the good things in my life.

7 comments:

Alison said...

Thanks for the update and the shout-out. It was WONDERFUL to see you again.

winter said...

Yay! Updatey goodness!

puggimer said...

Something I realized after staying in a very bad marriage for way too long - children learn what they see, not what they are told. If they live in a family with a bad marriage, then this is what they learn. Staying together for the sake of the kids is not benefitting them. It is much better to get out of a bad relationship and show them a good, independant parent, than to endure a bad one 'for them'.

Just my opinion - but staying in my bad marriage the last four years was nothing but a mistake.

sharon farnham said...

Marriage is hard if anybody told you it was easy they lied to you . Both people have to work at marriage not just one . I can look back at the past and some of the major arguments we had he was right .It is good to still be married and to know that you didn't give up when times were hard . I always thought I was right years later I know he was right to very scary. I have been married for 38 years not always easy but if you think life is always easy it is not .

rebecca said...

happy that your friend is doing better! and so, so happy to have finally met you in person. you're pretty wonderful, just as i suspected.

Mkae said...

Hang in there B. I have been having a rough spell lately as well. Work has been very difficult and I am in desperate need of an assistant, which I won't get anytime soon. I'm trying to get myself to a place where I can learn to deal with it all. It's funny, I just did a bit of a restart on my blog as well. :)

Justine's HouseWreck said...

Oh, Beanie. You're great.